Comments for The Phobia Fixer - The Blog http://phobiafixer.co.uk A mix of information about what I do and random thoughts Thu, 11 Aug 2011 04:24:19 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Comment on Fear of Flying – where does it come from? by Linda http://phobiafixer.co.uk/2010/08/fear-of-flying-where-does-it-come-from/comment-page-1/#comment-6705 Linda Thu, 11 Aug 2011 04:24:19 +0000 http://phobiafixer.co.uk/?p=101#comment-6705 Oh darn I meant to say someone not something. How embarrassing. Maybe I shouldn't type in public! :) Oh darn I meant to say someone not something. How embarrassing. Maybe I shouldn’t type in public! :)

]]> Comment on Fear of Flying – where does it come from? by Linda http://phobiafixer.co.uk/2010/08/fear-of-flying-where-does-it-come-from/comment-page-1/#comment-6704 Linda Thu, 11 Aug 2011 04:23:45 +0000 http://phobiafixer.co.uk/?p=101#comment-6704 I love you Peter Ford. Yes something who thinks just like me. I do not consider my fear of flying a phobia but a valid attitude that happens to be out of synch with modern life. I flew once, no make that twice. Once when I was three my family moved to France. Then when I was six we moved back to the States. I have absolutely no memory of it whatsoever. Even so you will not get me on an airplane. It was bad enough before 911 and now it's certainly worse if thats actually possible. I love you Peter Ford. Yes something who thinks just like me. I do not consider my fear of flying a phobia but a valid attitude that happens to be out of synch with modern life.

I flew once, no make that twice. Once when I was three my family moved to France. Then when I was six we moved back to the States. I have absolutely no memory of it whatsoever. Even so you will not get me on an airplane. It was bad enough before 911 and now it’s certainly worse if thats actually possible.

]]> Comment on Fear of Flying – where does it come from? by Peter Ford http://phobiafixer.co.uk/2010/08/fear-of-flying-where-does-it-come-from/comment-page-1/#comment-5104 Peter Ford Thu, 09 Jun 2011 23:53:18 +0000 http://phobiafixer.co.uk/?p=101#comment-5104 I didn't put that very well, but I found I couldn't alter the comment ! I should have said that I do not consider this a phobia, but a valid attitude that happens to be out of synch with modern life. I thought this was a forum rather than a website offering a service, and the first comment was intended as a response hoping that it may help as an example of different attitudes to this and similar problems. I have found the most useful aid to dealing with the prospect of flying is increasing my technical knowledge. Then if flying is necessary (as it may be) the experience may be made more acceptable. Then it will just be a matter of putting up with it with the motivation of necessity overcoming the natural reticence. There must be many people in this position who do not consider their misgivings as irrational. Can mind techniques help here? I didn’t put that very well, but I found I couldn’t alter the comment !
I should have said that I do not consider this a phobia, but a valid attitude that happens to be out of synch with modern life.
I thought this was a forum rather than a website offering a service, and the first comment was intended as a response hoping that it may help as an example of different attitudes to this and similar problems. I have found the most useful aid to dealing with the prospect of flying is increasing my technical knowledge. Then if flying is necessary (as it may be) the experience may be made more acceptable. Then it will just be a matter of putting up with it with the motivation of necessity overcoming the natural reticence.
There must be many people in this position who do not consider their misgivings as irrational. Can mind techniques help here?

]]> Comment on Fear of Flying – where does it come from? by Peter Ford http://phobiafixer.co.uk/2010/08/fear-of-flying-where-does-it-come-from/comment-page-1/#comment-5102 Peter Ford Thu, 09 Jun 2011 23:18:52 +0000 http://phobiafixer.co.uk/?p=101#comment-5102 I do not consider that I have a fear of flying. I have never flown and hope that I never will. I suppose if it were absolutely necessary I would just have to rationalise. I just do not fly, in the same way that I do not breathe water. It seems unnatural. The reason is that on land or at sea, while there are dangers the very fact of your being in that place or medium does not mean that you are dead with no hope of influencing the outcome if the means of your being there ceases to be. It is the same as a fear of heights that occurs only when said height does not have an immediate way out, as on a bridge. Likewise a fear of crowds or small places, where the actual fear of not being able to distance yourself. This is not a phobia but a fully thought out attitude. I do not consider this an abnormality. I hope this may be of some use. I do not consider that I have a fear of flying.
I have never flown and hope that I never will. I suppose if it were absolutely necessary I would just have to rationalise.
I just do not fly, in the same way that I do not breathe water. It seems unnatural. The reason is that on land or at sea, while there are dangers the very fact of your being in that place or medium does not mean that you are dead with no hope of influencing the outcome if the means of your being there ceases to be.
It is the same as a fear of heights that occurs only when said height does not have an immediate way out, as on a bridge. Likewise a fear of crowds or small places, where the actual fear of not being able to distance yourself.
This is not a phobia but a fully thought out attitude. I do not consider this an abnormality.
I hope this may be of some use.

]]> Comment on Fear of Flying – where does it come from? by Bernard Misell http://phobiafixer.co.uk/2010/08/fear-of-flying-where-does-it-come-from/comment-page-1/#comment-1651 Bernard Misell Tue, 21 Dec 2010 11:26:08 +0000 http://phobiafixer.co.uk/?p=101#comment-1651 Fantastic post. An experience is usually the spark that causes the phobia, but it may be perpetuated by underlying logic that was there before. Often a great technique is to imagine the object of your phobia as something funny - this changes the pattern of reaction in your brain. <a href="http://www.experthypnotherapy.com" rel="nofollow">Hypnotherapy Hertfordshire</a> - Hypnotherapy Treatment Fantastic post. An experience is usually the spark that causes the phobia, but it may be perpetuated by underlying logic that was there before. Often a great technique is to imagine the object of your phobia as something funny – this changes the pattern of reaction in your brain.

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]]> Comment on Free-dom from what? by phobiafixer http://phobiafixer.co.uk/2010/08/free-dom-from-what/comment-page-1/#comment-342 phobiafixer Wed, 18 Aug 2010 11:46:07 +0000 http://phobiafixer.co.uk/?p=91#comment-342 Hi Deny, Good thanks - lucky you being in France! Drop me a line when you get back and if you want to banish your fear of spiders we'll do it! Love, Lucy x Hi Deny,
Good thanks – lucky you being in France! Drop me a line when you get back and if you want to banish your fear of spiders we’ll do it!
Love,
Lucy
x

]]> Comment on Free-dom from what? by Dany Dubard http://phobiafixer.co.uk/2010/08/free-dom-from-what/comment-page-1/#comment-341 Dany Dubard Wed, 18 Aug 2010 05:35:43 +0000 http://phobiafixer.co.uk/?p=91#comment-341 Hi Lucy, How are you? I would have so loved to come on the 25th so that I can once and for all eliminate my extreme fear of spiders :-( I will be in France unfortunately on that date. Keep up the good work :-) Love, Dany x Hi Lucy,

How are you? I would have so loved to come on the 25th so that I can once and for all eliminate my extreme fear of spiders :-( I will be in France unfortunately on that date.

Keep up the good work :-)

Love,
Dany x

]]> Comment on Write it down by phobiafixer http://phobiafixer.co.uk/2010/08/write-it-down/comment-page-1/#comment-323 phobiafixer Mon, 16 Aug 2010 10:17:51 +0000 http://phobiafixer.co.uk/?p=79#comment-323 Thanks Pushpa, it's such a little thing but it can make such a difference! Thanks Pushpa, it’s such a little thing but it can make such a difference!

]]> Comment on Write it down by Pushpa http://phobiafixer.co.uk/2010/08/write-it-down/comment-page-1/#comment-309 Pushpa Thu, 12 Aug 2010 19:22:06 +0000 http://phobiafixer.co.uk/?p=79#comment-309 A very good blog and makes so much sense, Lucy. A very good blog and makes so much sense, Lucy.

]]> Comment on Write it down by phobiafixer http://phobiafixer.co.uk/2010/08/write-it-down/comment-page-1/#comment-308 phobiafixer Thu, 12 Aug 2010 12:04:37 +0000 http://phobiafixer.co.uk/?p=79#comment-308 Thanks Steve - and excellent point! It's amazing how you don't actually lie to yourself when you're writing these things down! Thanks Steve – and excellent point! It’s amazing how you don’t actually lie to yourself when you’re writing these things down!

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